Yes! “I’ve been there” and lived to turn it all around and talk about it. My credentials include; divorces, failures, quitting, horrible decision making, self-defeating thoughts, lay-offs and many un-achieved goals and dreams.
“I know what it’s like when the alarm clock goes off and your first thought is “Damn"… I have to do this again.”
Within 2 years I divorced the Mother of my kids (who to this day is one of my best friends and one of the most amazing women I have ever known), got the job of my dreams, met the love of my life, was remarried, was laid off from my dream job and divorced again.
I had no idea how or why I had allowed myself or what caused me to get to that point. I didn’t know or have any real ideas about how to get out of the deep rut I found myself in. "I also know what it’s like to finally harness the power and creativity within myself to completely turn my life around."
The Defining Moment……
Fortunately I made the decision to reach out for help and found a guy (a Coach) in my local town that would help me to realize that I held “powerful ideas and answers” inside of myself that were the best solutions for me to be able to move forward in pursuit of the life I have always wanted and dreamed of.
Does that mean that a Magic Genie appeared and poof my life was perfect? Does that mean my new marriage could be saved in an instant? Does that mean that my debt disappeared suddenly? NO! Absolutely Not! In fact much of it got worse before it ever began to improve.
What I can tell you is this. My ideas and goals to get myself on track were very scattered and very non-developed. Through the partnership with “My Coach” I was able to develop these ideas and center (focus the power from within me) them into a force that completely transformed and changed my life in a very short time. I saw that the will and desire inside of me wasn’t focused in any one direction but was scattered. I had to decide what area of my life to tackle first and then conquer all areas with all of my creativity and strength one at a time. I learned skills and techniques to quiet my mind and find the Focus/Power to transform my life.
There were casualties along the way.
Yes in my case there were some losses and some things that couldn’t be saved, including my young marriage. One of the most difficult things I believe we all face in life is moving on after the loss of something or someone we loved. Let’s face it life sometimes throws circumstances at us that bring chaos and shake us to the core of our being.
I very well could have folded my cards. I could have succumbed to my own paralyzing circumstances. I could have watched years go by wondering how to put my life back together. But I didn't, instead I learned how to step out of depression and into the present, I learned to focus on the things I could control. I know with all of my heart that we all have the power to change our lives because I did it myself.
The most empowering thing I did for myself was to decide that I was no longer going to be dissatisfied with my life and that I no longer was going to be miserable. These two things were no longer acceptable. From that day on I looked hard for things that were going good in my life and the lives of others. I surrounded myself with strong positive people who pushed and stretched me. I had to cut my losses and put distance between anything or anyone that wasn't in my corner. I focused on the things I could control, my decisions, my thoughts, my happiness, my motivation and my desire.